310: Commitment

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Commitment
Could be worse. The last guy in that situation fell for one of the transient trumpeting angels.
Title text: Could be worse. The last guy in that situation fell for one of the transient trumpeting angels.

[edit] Explanation

In the first panel, Cueball proposes to a woman. While he does this, a narrator (most likely the man's inner voice) explains why he wants to marry her. It's implied that he had doubts about their relationship. He'd never experienced a moment of overwhelming love and certainty when they met, which he describes as "a choir of trumpeting angels when you meet the right girl". He's come to believe that such a scenario is actually implausible, and a serious relationship is about "realizing that what you have is what you want".

In the second panel, they get married. And in the third panel, after they are married, Megan comes in saying 'Hi'. His wife appears to still be wearing her wedding veil, implying that he meets Megan immediately after the scenario. Cueball has the full 'love at first sight'-experience, with a literal choir of trumpeting angels, suggesting that Megan is actually the one he's supposed to be with. That this realization strikes him immediately after he married someone else puts him in a very difficult situation. This is expressed by him thinking 'Well, shit.'

The title text notes that the last guy who had a similar experience fell in love with one of the angels instead, not realising that it was the girl he just met that was the love of his life. Which is of course much worse, especially because the angels are transient, and the only way to see them again is by meeting the perfect 'girl' and he has just ignored her!

The humor of this comic plays upon a common anxiety in trying to build relationships. A person may be dating someone who they enjoy being with, but expect a moment of supernatural clarity announcing that they've found the right person to spend their life with. Most people never have such a moment, and have to build their relationships slowly, based on more prosaic considerations, like compatibility, commitment and shared life goals. Frequently, people will build such a relationship, but worry that a magic and transcendent love is still out there, and if they 'settle' for the person they're with, they may find that love later and be unable to act on it.

The comic 584: Unsatisfied could be seen as a continuation of this - with the blond girl being depicted as Ponytail. It can also be seen as a deconstruction: in the subsequent comic, no matter which partner he chooses, he spends the rest of his life thinking about the other, apparently never being totally satisfied with the relationship he has.

[edit] Transcript

[Cueball proposing on his knee holding a box with a ring in it up to a girl with long blond hair. The text is written above them in a frame with yellow background.]
I understand now. There's no choir of angels when you meet the right person. It's about growing out of your fears to realize what you have is what you want.
[Cueball and the woman are getting married. They stand under a gate of honor with a priest in front of them]
Girl: I do.
Cueball: I do.
[Cueball walks hand in hand with blond girl when a cloud with trumpeting angels appears over Megan.]
Megan: Hi.
[Same picture but without the cloud and angels. Cueballs thought are written in a frame with yellow background.]
Well, shit.


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Discussion

This is my greatest fear. 69.91.105.111 (talk) 00:15, 6 May 2013‎ (UTC) (please sign your comments with ~~~~)

Totally agree --SergioCastanneda (talk) 21:48, 24 May 2013 (UTC)
Disagree. There is no true one. You join in commitment and make it work. Because, even if there was a true one, what if "the one" mucked up, and didn't pick her true one. We'd have to assume that both people would be capable of picking out their true one love. What if yours mucked up and ended up addicted to drugs, went insane, or worse. So, at this point we have to assume that the true one would be good enough to avoid all that. Then, they'd have to be better at us at recognizing their true love. They'd have to better at us at building relationships to make up for our inadequacies. They'd have to be better at us at a lot of stuff. And if they were better than us, then we'd be unequally committed. We'd be the butt of all the screw ups. Everything we did would be wrong. It would be marriage hell. No, I like the idea that me and my wife picked each other, and we are equally inadequate, and that our love for each other is what makes us strive to make it work. That to me, is more romantic than finding a one that I'd always feel inadequate to have. Cflare (talk) 14:36, 21 July 2014 (UTC)
I disagree with the last sentence of the explanation. I think it was not Cueball that was the "last guy in that situation". I think it is Cueball or someone else observing Cueball, and making a comment about a previous person. Tryc (talk) 15:56, 20 June 2013 (UTC)
In general I do not edit other posts but here was something broken. I am pretty sure this comic refers to the movie The Graduate feat. Dustin Hoffman. Hoffman became very popular after it was released AND the ending of that movie is very similar to this comic. I will add an incomplete tag for further investigations.--Dgbrt (talk) 19:05, 20 June 2013 (UTC)
There is nothing similar to the Graduate in this comic. In the movie it is the girl that leaves another man at the alter (before saying yes), for the boy she loved, but at first could not forgive for having had sex with mrs. Robinson - her mother. When he came after her, she decided to flee from a marriage she had chosen in spite of having experienced the trumpets for him. So no relation here. And I can see the incomplete tag has been removed...--Kynde (talk) 19:27, 20 October 2015 (UTC)

Randall has a What If? article about the one perfect match; would it be worth referring to it here? 108.162.246.89 07:13, 17 February 2017 (UTC)

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