Explain xkcd: It's 'cause you're dumb.
There is a common psychological phenomenon which causes people to mentally magnify their own flaws, while failing to notice the flaws of others, so common it apparently doesn't have a scientific name. Many self-conscious people apologize for "the mess" in their home whenever they have guests over, no matter how neat their house looks. If the house is neater than the guest's own home, the guest is likely to say to himself: "If she thinks THIS is messy, what would she think of my place?!" The title text takes this even further.
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- [Cueball and a friend walk into a bedroom. There's a bed, a picture on the wall, some curtains, a rug, and one item on the floor. On the whole, the room is immaculate.]
- Friend: Sorry it's such a disaster in here.
- Cueball: (inside a thought bubble) whoa— what's wrong with me?
- My room never looks as nice as the rooms other people apologize for.
I do this on purpose whenever people are likely to come over. I mostly clean my house except for a little thing and apologize for the mess. 188.8.131.52 11:29, 20 September 2013 (UTC)
- Remind me never to come visit you.184.108.40.206 12:40, 20 September 2013 (UTC)
- Never come visit him/her. Is that enough of a reminder? --220.127.116.11 05:48, 22 September 2013 (UTC)
"There is a common psychological phenomenon which causes people to mentally magnify their own flaws, while failing to notice the flaws of others." Tell that to my ex-wife! --Dangerkeith3000 (talk) 15:03, 20 September 2013 (UTC)
- There is a common psychological phenomenon which causes future ex-wives to mentally magnify their spouse's flaws while failing to notice their own or the flaws of others. 18.104.22.168 17:41, 15 July 2014 (UTC)
This comic wierdly mirrors (in contrast) a recently broadcast radio programme (which I doubt Randall will have heard, it being UK's BBC Radio 4 "Thinking Allowed", I think it was, with a segment regarding how normal people react to those not acting 'properly' to social norms) in which the phenomena was mentioned. A lady hostess who unselfconsciously apologises for "not having dusted" (despite dust being possibly shed skin cells and such, it's considered "clean mess"), for her visitor, is then utterly mortified when said visitor breaks the rules and also 'helpfully' points out a coffee-ring stain (considered "dirty mess", for some reason) upon a surface. Doubtless the traditional light and largely insignificant layering of dust possibly somehow prevents highlighting any geniuinely missed spots (if one had actually dusted most of the room), yet distinct stains and marks (and dust layers with obvious finger-marks in?) ought to have been cleaned or even prevented in the first place.
(For the record, my own home is a "working mess", much to the chagrin of my mother when she visits. It could definitely be tidier, and there's absolutly no way to convincingly apologise for its state. I consider the whole place to be my "shed", in the grand tradition of "shedology". Mind you, this attitude of mine arises out of the tendency for me to lose so many things when I deliberately tidy up/pack away "projects in progress" for such esteemed visitors. Better that I can find everything when I need to, IMO. This mostly works better than with the alternative, under a sometimes Holmesian 'stratified' surface-based filing system.) 22.214.171.124 15:42, 20 September 2013 (UTC)
- tl;dr--Dgbrt (talk) 22:09, 20 September 2013 (UTC)
I was reminded of..
http://www.theonion.com/articles/man-puts-glass-of-water-on-bedside-table-in-case-h,33751/ 126.96.36.199 (talk) (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
People call a clean house messy as a way to seem superior to their guests. They clean it before the guest gets here then say that because they know the guest has not cleaned. 188.8.131.52 17:37, 22 September 2013 (UTC)
"There is a common psychological phenomenon which causes people to mentally magnify their own flaws, while failing to notice the flaws of others." How is this phenomenon called? 184.108.40.206 09:36, 23 September 2013 (UTC)
- false humility Grahame (talk) 05:44, 18 October 2013 (UTC)Grahame
- No, more like self doubt, which is the exact opposite. 220.127.116.11 09:50, 4 February 2014 (UTC)
I think you mean "What is this called?" I don't know, I've been trying to research it for the last five minutes and it's never the first result on google. Must not exist. 18.104.22.168
02:37, 25 September 2013 (UTC)