383: Helping
| Helping |
 Title text: Oh, look, the 'make everything better' button was here behind the bookshelf all along. |
Explanation
Everyone wants to help someone in need, but sometimes the help they can offer isn't enough, or is the wrong kind of help. Cueball tries to help Megan, who is in psychological or emotional distress, but despite his efforts she ends up in an ambulance. It's implied that she either attempted suicide, severe self-harm, or hurt herself in some other way. The point is that sometimes no amount of help from the outside can help someone who is internally suffering.
The title text implies a hidden button behind a bookshelf that would solve Megan's problems, but Cueball did not find it in time. This ironic sentence implies that helping someone in psychological or emotional distress has never been as simple as pressing a button.
Given Randall's implied negative feelings towards Valentine's Day, shown in the majority of his Valentine's Day comics, it may not be a coincidence that he sent this one out the day before February 14. He did not draw any Valentine's Day related comics this year as he did before.
Transcript
- [Caption above and to the right of Cueball's head.]
- It turns out you can't take responsibility for someone else's happiness.
- [Cueball looking at a curled-up Megan across an enclosed room.]
- [Cueball's hand on Megan's shoulder.]
- [Megan has her head in her hands.]
- [Cueball watches as two Cueballs wearing blue hats take Megan away in a stretcher into an ambulance with a partially omitted blue cross.]
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Most depressing XKCD ever? 71.201.53.130 14:24, 22 August 2013 (UTC)
- Every time when I see this comic I'm close before some tear drops running out of my eyes ;( --Dgbrt (talk) 21:42, 9 December 2013 (UTC)
Waitwaitwait. So the guy was in the building all along, witnessing the suicide/self-harm, and he failed to stop a woman from apparently successfully knocking herself out? 16:19, 24 May 2014 (UTC) 141.101.88.205 (talk) (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
I thought Cueball was choking her!108.162.238.169
So did I!! 172.70.214.243 (talk) 23:35, 24 October 2024 (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
I thought maybe it was about Randall's wife. Just like some of the comics feature her implicitly, I thought maybe this one did. 108.162.216.20 (talk) (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
I think the explanation is a bit off. Sometimes getting someone into a hospital is helping. I've had to call 911 to get friends help. Things usually got bad for a while after that. 108.162.216.124 21:46, 26 April 2015 (UTC)
The first time I saw this one, it was some 2 or 3 days after I had to call the police for a friend who was attempting suicide. It hit way, way too close to home, to the point where I wanted to cry. I ended up just getting up right then and going for a long walk in the woods to clear my head. 7:24, 2 July 2015 (UTC) 173.59.1.79 (talk) (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
To 108.162.216.20, he married in 2011... this comic was made in 2008. Unfortunately, we may never know who he is referring to. 141.101.84.114 (talk) (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
Am I the only one who feels that the point is he tried to talk to someone to cheer them up, but the woman was so distraught by what cueball said, it lead to self harm? 107.136.89.38 (talk) (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
- I think the text is rather confusing: If you take responsibility for somebody's sadness, as in "I'm sorry. This was my fault." it may help. But saying "I made you feel this good" seems like bragging and does not help. But she was apparently already sad, so, yeah, kinda confused. Isn't that what explainxkcd is for? That's right, Jacky720 just signed this (talk | contribs) 22:52, 24 June 2017 (UTC)
When you care for someone, especially a significant other, your natural instinct as a decent human being is to provide help and support when they are in distress or upset. But with issues like depression, tendencies toward self-harm, or even general anxiety, your attempt to help provides no benefit or much more likely makes things worse. You being so close to that person makes it that much harder for them to be helped by you, and it often isn't your place to assume the role of therapist or counselor no matter how much you want to. No matter how much you think that person should be happy, you can't assume responsibility for it and no amount of convincing or reassuring is going to help that. When things get really bad, professional medical help and distance are the only thing that will keep that person safe. I cry when I read this. I've sat and held the hand of a close friend while he was handcuffed by campus police for his own safety and was escorted to a hospital for treatment. It takes a long time to heal that divide - and its the most frustrating thing in the world to know the best thing you can do is step away for a while. If you ever feel the need to comfort a spouse, a child, a friend who is so overwhelmed with existence that they aren't sure they want to live anymore, you'll understand this panel. 172.68.141.172 (talk) (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
- wait wait wait-in order to help and care for others that are going through a really hard time, you’re supposed to leave them alone and let professionals take care of it? 42.book.addict (talk) 03:25, 5 February 2024 (UTC)
First time I read this comic, I didnt think much of it. Rereading it years later, after I lived with a loved one struggling with depression, made me cry so much. It is exactly what I feel. 141.101.69.117 (talk) 10:16, 19 April 2017 (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
Does anyone else feel like the comic is actually saying that sometimes, bad things will happen no matter whether or not you try to help? 108.162.241.184 (talk) 18:10, 21 April 2017 (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
Okay, this almost happened to my classmate's friend like around 3 month plus ago, she was struggling with a case of suicide due to depression. When I see this, it reminds me of her friend a lot, and I wonder how is her friend doing. This is actually quite a tear-jerker if you are having a depression or your loved ones having it. Please, get some form of help if you need it...Boeing-787lover 10:08, 26 June 2018 (UTC) -- Xkcdreader52 (talk) 10:08, 26 June 2018 (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
A few of the people writing comments here seem to have concluded that the Cueball somehow made things more difficult for Megan. I don't see any indication of that. Just that he attempted to help or comfort her and that it wasn't sufficient. Mcherm (talk) 13:32, 2 May 2020 (UTC)
This one is just what it feels like when you can't do anything but put someone into psychiatric care, or stand by and watch it happen. You can try to help, but then you'll realize that nothing you can do is helping. It sucks. Nothing's going to prepare you for it. If you've been there, you won't forget it. Singlelinelabyrinth (talk) 14:45, 16 July 2020 (UTC)
I have a different interpretation altogether : Cueball hesitates to help. One path is, he does, and Meghan wipe tears off her eyes. One path is, he doesn't, and Meghan harms herself. (User:Jerome) 162.158.22.10 (talk) 08:58, 5 July 2023 (please sign your comments with ~~~~)
I spotted a new hat. May we add the tag? ConscriptGlossary (talk) 00:46, 4 November 2024 (UTC)
